Candy’s story

“The victims themselves have already been harmed. You shouldn’t blame them anymore. It’s not their responsibility at all.”

— Candy

I felt like I became an object for people to take photos of, after being filmed covertly. This is not what I wanted. I don’t get why others find it ok to film me whenever they want to. I believe that they (i.e. the perpetrators) don’t know how to appropriately handle their sexual fantasies. They (i.e. the perpetrators) may think, ‘It was just a fantasy of mine, I don’t need your consent’.

If I told my family members who are very conservative and traditional, they would definitely blame me and said ‘It must be because you have worn shorts’. And similarly, when others hear about the incident, the first comment they would ever make is ‘She must be wearing shorts at that time’, or ‘She must be wearing mini-skirts’. They are so used to the mentality that as long as you wear a long dress or pants, the problem of accidental exposure of private parts would be solved.

The victims themselves have already been harmed. You shouldn’t blame them anymore. It’s not their responsibility at all. Some people may think you could easily tackle covert filming if you ‘cover the body like how the Muslims do’. It’s totally irrelevant! I guess, unless we educate people not to covertly film others, one could still be filmed regardless of his/her choice of clothing. It really doesn’t matter what you wear. Even if you cover your body like a mummy, there could still be people who are interested in filming you… And there will always be someone who thinks that he/she could impose his/her sexual desire on you, and that belief would not be changed simply because you are dressed more conservatively.